soubriquet 0 Posted June 27, 2008 Author Share Posted June 27, 2008 Thanks for the warm sentiments everyone. I felt as if I was going out of my mind earlier, but we have just had a fortnight together on holiday. That was very calming. She's back in hospital this afternoon for some more tests, and due to go under the knife next Wednesday. The strategy is to deal with one tumour at a time, so after surgery she'll probably have to go to Chiba for some radiation therapy. Then on to the second. Link to post Share on other sites
2pints-mate 0 Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Good to see you back, mate. Hope all goes well. Link to post Share on other sites
the snowboarding vicar 1 Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Very best wishes to you and yours Link to post Share on other sites
soubriquet 0 Posted June 27, 2008 Author Share Posted June 27, 2008 Thanks 2pints and vicar. Mr Vicar: she's spiritual and believes in Karma. Doing good means getting good. We go with that but don't believe that Christ was the son of God. There is no God. Doing fieldwork in the Atlas mountains, Morocco I was confronted with the question "was Christ the Son of God". I could quite confidently answer "No" There is no God. Therefore, he can't have a son. Link to post Share on other sites
JA2340 16 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Sentiments I can absolutely agree with, soubs. Karma, on the other hand, is a very real matter. Best, peace and happiness! Link to post Share on other sites
Ezorisu 0 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Soubs, good to hear from you. It's good that you both had a moment to get your thoughts settled while on holiday. Now you can approach the coming treatments with focus and fortitude. A positive attitude counts for much. Again, best wishes! Link to post Share on other sites
HelperElfMissy 42 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Glad to hear from you Soubs, and even more glad that you and Soubriquette managed to have a lovely 2 weeks together before embarking on this next challenge. My very best thoughts, and wishes are with you both - I also believe that the positive thoughts and energy of self and others makes a massive difference to experiences and outcomes. Whenever the going gets tough know that our support and care is right behind you both. May that help you put one foot in front of the other on the days you find it hard to do so - and may it bring you a lot of joy on the days you have cause to celebrate. Link to post Share on other sites
sunrise 0 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Sounds like she's got a good attitude to it all. Sending good vibes to you both. Link to post Share on other sites
kokodoko 67 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 best wishes to you and the missus, soubs. My positive vibes are going your way. Link to post Share on other sites
Thunderpants 0 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 All the best to you and Junko. when i had i difficult time a few years ago my wife gave me this book. it helped me a lot, and it was really interesting to read too. Link to post Share on other sites
grungy-gonads 54 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 And from me too. Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Soubs, I can see you are very upset. Venting helps, it's good therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
soubriquet 0 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 She's gone in to hospital today. Nice room, but no swimming pool, palm trees or Balinese making you feel at the centre of attention. Under the knife tomorrow, then in'sh Allah home on Friday. When they get the dead meat under the microscope, we'll start to know the extent of the problems. Link to post Share on other sites
HelperElfMissy 42 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 ((((Thinking of you both Soubs.)))) Link to post Share on other sites
the snowboarding vicar 1 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 We all choose what we believe. I wish you all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
soubriquet 0 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 Yes Vicar. Some of us are fortunate to have choices. Thank you very much for your kind words. I really appreciate the kindness I find here Link to post Share on other sites
JA2340 16 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Soubs, I know we all feel for you and soubriquette. We also all hope we don't have to go through this sort of thing. Please, keep us in the loop, and pass our very best wishes to herself. Whilst she may not know us (nor we know her) she is a real part of our community and we all wish her well. Link to post Share on other sites
soubriquet 0 Posted July 3, 2008 Author Share Posted July 3, 2008 Thanks JA. She's optimistic, and without doubt the bravest person I've ever met. Leaving aside the obvious and direct problems, I'm 56 and not looking forward to have to build a new life again. Very selfish I know. Age is decreasing my ability to handle stress, and that makes me ratty. We'll know more on Friday, and subsequently. Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Soubs, {{generic stem vibes for you to use]] Link to post Share on other sites
JA2340 16 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Luck! ... in bucket loads! Link to post Share on other sites
me jane 0 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Soubs, I don't think it's selfish to wonder your own future at all. It's completely natural. Stay strong. A positive attitude sometimes seems to be more effective at beating the odds than medical technology. Link to post Share on other sites
HelperElfMissy 42 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 I have to echo MJ's sentiments there. Papabear has a habit of kicking on at the pub without letting me know...and of course I worry when he is not home as expected and not contactable. Many times I have pondered how I would put one foot in front of the other should he be gone. It is totally human. The reality is that you find some way - but don't ever beat yourself up for feeling/thinking it!! Most of us do. Stay positive and love her well right now, tomorrow will take care of itself - if ever there was a time to live each day as it is - now is it. Link to post Share on other sites
JA2340 16 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Mamabear and jane have said it much more eloquently than I could, but be assured that we all feel for you. Dammit! Be selfish! No one sensible would blame you one jot! Link to post Share on other sites
soubriquet 0 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 The operation was a technical success. She's had a lump the size of a hazelnut cut out of her neck, and it's healing nicely. My role is to change the dressings, not that I'm much good at it. We'll have the biopsy results next week. Depending on the results the next move will either be radiotherapy, or on to the next shadow. Unfortunately, No2 is a lot deeper. And so on. As for optimism, the memsahib is planning a Bali trip for November. This time we will be three, travelling with one of her cake ladies, appropriately named Yumi. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
TJ OZ 0 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Get the girl back into that kitchen. We need more cakes for the next party. Ahhhh Sorry, I did actually steal an extra cake as I wanted one immediately and one for the next day with a cup of tea mmmmmmm. I just had to get that off my chest. Chin up Soubs. She'll be right mate. Live life and another trip to Bali sounds like a good idea. A very calming atmosphere. Link to post Share on other sites
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