mitchpee 10 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 So I don't want to get into detail, but how do you tell someone the worst possible news they could ever hear in their life? Has anyone ever had to tell someone something so overwhelmingly difficult they can't even look at the person without feeling sick? Anything to make it easier? Link to post Share on other sites
jared 0 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 shit sounds bad.... try and tell them when they are at home so they dont have to try and drive or go through a public area to get home. Link to post Share on other sites
HelperElfMissy 42 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 my thoughts also Captain Stag. Don't do it over the phone. And don't preface it with "everything is/will be ok, but..." My mother did that to me, and before she even told me what was up I was in tears. Her voice held the exact opposite message! I'M sorry to hear you have such sad news to tell. Link to post Share on other sites
RobBright 35 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Depends on what you think the worst possible news of their life is? Just sit them down, don't sugar coat it, but if gruesome, don't give too much detail unless they ask. Don't patronize them with silly language or cliches. Be prepared for unrestrained reactions. And don't make anything up - make sure it's the truth, because otherwise if you even make the slightest thing up, it will make the resultant situation a lot worse. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 18, 2009 Author Share Posted December 18, 2009 Thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
foreversnow 5 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Originally Posted By: Captain Stag shit sounds bad.... try and tell them when they are at home so they dont have to try and drive or go through a public area to get home. I agree with CS and everyone else - Say what needs to be said and be there for that person whether it is sit there in complete silence or a shoulder to cry on or arms to hug. So sorry to hear MP our thoughts are with you and your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
SantaCruz 0 Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 All sound advice. Best of luck Mitch. Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted December 19, 2009 Share Posted December 19, 2009 news broken yet? What was the reaction? Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Share Posted December 20, 2009 Originally Posted By: thursday news broken yet? What was the reaction? News broken, not by me, but reaction not good. Guess you just have to make the best of what you have and that's all that I could tell him. Take a second to realize what you've got guys. Life is very precious. Especially good life. Link to post Share on other sites
RobBright 35 Posted December 20, 2009 Share Posted December 20, 2009 Cheating wife? Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 His team knocked out of the Champion's League? Link to post Share on other sites
Go Native 70 Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 Mullets are no longer cool? Link to post Share on other sites
RobBright 35 Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 What?! They aren't cool - GN, did you learn nothing from this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Sorry Mitch. Sorry for having a laugh. But..... Any chance of a looksie? Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 Originally Posted By: thursday Sorry Mitch. Sorry for having a laugh. But..... Any chance of a looksie? It's fine. One of my friends has a serious illness and is probably not going to make it another year. He didn't want to hear the test results from the doctor so his parents had to tell him, which is the hardest thing you will ever have to tell anyone and I didn't want his parents to break the news. Hence the reason I made this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
SantaCruz 0 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Sorry to here that MitchPee. Let's def meet up for a drink next week. Are your PMs working? Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 Originally Posted By: SantaCruz Sorry to here that MitchPee. Let's def meet up for a drink next week. Are your PMs working? I'm down...my pm's aren't working for some reason but I will be back in UT the 28th and I think you said you will be there Jan 2? Link to post Share on other sites
SantaCruz 0 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I fly in Sat night and fly back on the 2nd. Ping one of the admins on here to get your PMs working and I'll send you my email addy. Hope you have a good Christmas! Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Yeah, Have a good holiday. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 Originally Posted By: SantaCruz I fly in Sat night and fly back on the 2nd. Ping one of the admins on here to get your PMs working and I'll send you my email addy. Hope you have a good Christmas! Just in case they don't get working, my cell phone is 603-312-6959 just give me a ring anytime. Link to post Share on other sites
RobBright 35 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Not the best idea to put your number on a public forum. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 Originally Posted By: RobBright Not the best idea to put your number on a public forum. If someone wants to abuse my cell phone number via public forum on this site then all the power to them. You've got to either have A). No life or . No friends Link to post Share on other sites
thursday 1 Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Mitch, give your friend a real good send off. Party. Not the morbid stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchpee 10 Posted December 26, 2009 Author Share Posted December 26, 2009 Originally Posted By: thursday Mitch, give your friend a real good send off. Party. Not the morbid stuff. We both hate the sad type funerals and stuff, he's coming out to UT for spring break with me and we are going to go to Vegas and San Diego, California. I'm just going to cruise with him for a week and party all night/surf all day. Should be fun and try to forget about his illness. Link to post Share on other sites
foreversnow 5 Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 Remember to treat him as you would before you got the terrible news. Don't now treat him like he is fragile (even if he is) make every day a day for him to remember. I recently went to a funeral and made the decision there and then and have told all my family. I want all my friends to stand up and remember one good or fun thing about me, Everyone is to wear something bright NO BLACK. Definately DO NOT PLAY Wing beneath my wings perhaps Don't worry Be Happy. Please celebrate my life, don't all leave crying - leave happy. I will not be buried I will have my ashes scattered over my favourite areas. Link to post Share on other sites
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