Ending a conversation

[TheOrange 0]

I have a Japanese acquaintance and I find it really really difficult to end a conversation with them. It's like there's these silences and they keep on just looking as if something has been unsaid and however many phrases I say it seems to continue. Gets quite awkward actually. I think I might be missing some good "this is the end of the coversation" phrases - you know, polite ones but ones that are quite to the point.

 

Any good ones then?

[2pints-mate 0]

Does "goodbye" not work? How about "I've got to go to a meeting" and stuff like that. I use that a lot if needed.

[misorano 1]

Look at your watch and give a "chotto...sumimasen" like you have to be somewhere, and they should take the hint.

[gamera 0]

If you need to be in a hurry, you can say " Chotto yakusoku ga arimasunode, shitsurei shimasu (I have an appointment, have to go)".

 

If you don't need to be in a hurry but want to end the conversation not in a bad timing, judge the timing when - usually the timing the conversation stops for a while and say " Sah, soreja konohende shitsurei shimasu (Well, it's high time for me to go, good-bye)" BEFORE someone starts talking again!!!

[Bonio 0]

I doubt this is phoneticaly correct but would this be acceptable as a way of ending a conversation?

 

"iniku shitsurei shinakaraiba naranain desu"

 

I understand it means, "unfortunately I have to leave" but would it make sense in the context of just ending a conversation your having with somebody you've met in the street?

[miteyak 0]

Gotta run...???

[Yuki's Passion 1]

I generally use ほんじゃあね！ with my mates and what gamera said for others...

[gamera 0]

I think Yamakashi sometimes speaks too casual J phrases which means he has studied / learned hard.

 

"Honjane" works good with your friends in casual situation but it does not in some special situation like you visit your J girl friend's parents for the first time.

Be careful!

[montoya 0]

 Quote:

Originally posted by Yamakashi:
I generally use ほんじゃあね！ with my mates and what gamera said for others...

hmm, don't hear that too much around Tokyo.

btw, did you take the JLPT? Get your level 1?

[Yuki's Passion 1]

Gamera, thats why i said thats for my mates and something like what you said when being polite.

 

montoya, failed level 1 two years ago and this year is... 微妙 havent been studying much over the last six weeks.

[me jane 0]

I had a few students like that. Now at the end of lessons I usually stand up & open the door for them.

[gamera 0]

Yeah, Yama. I know, I just wanted to give a slight warning to The Orange not to misunderstand it.

 

Montoya - maybe you hear "じゃあね" instead. They mean the same.

[HighlyTrainedNovaTeacher 2]

If its someone at the door I know will just be a short while but difficult to go away, I'll say I'm on the phone so I have to be quick.

[rach 1]

I've used the "on the phone" one as well a few times.

[Ocean11 0]

The best way of dealing with this is to be so consistently obnoxious that nobody would spend a moment more of their time in your presence than they really have to, thus ensuring that these awkward moments never arise. If any misunderstanding still arises, a loud 以上です;! should clear it up.

[klingon 10]

Haha, ijou desu. Class, I'll have to use that one. It sounds like the end of a meeting/report.