echineko 1 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I want to know about hugging, not between lover but maybe mother and daughter or father and son or maybe friend etc. It seem on movie and like that people do much but Japanese do not do this. I think many Japanese not even 'hug' their parent. Can you tell me about it in your case? Link to post Share on other sites
sakebomb 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Sounds like you need a hug!! I hug my wife and daughter regularly. Never hug my friends- that would just blow my macho image Link to post Share on other sites
Yuki's Passion 1 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I hug my mates - it doesnt matter. I think youre just a closet homo sakebomb Always hugged my mom and dad before bed. Link to post Share on other sites
sakebomb 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Yama-why did I get the feeling you would be the next to reply and with your closet homo remarks. フォォォー！！ Do you want a hug too? Link to post Share on other sites
advantyper 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I think its a culture thing, in Hong Kong not much hugging too. But the younger generation is more open to hugging, I hug all my female friends when I see them, guy friends is handshake. Link to post Share on other sites
big-will 7 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I hug my parents, esp mum and esp now I don't see them often. Don't hug male friends that seems a bit strange. Link to post Share on other sites
indosnm 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I hug my sons, wife and any young girl that will let me A lot of gaijin I know here are on to the full on hug thing. I tend to do tha handshake instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Seeing Japanese people not hug each other always strikes me as artificial and painful. On "PokaPoka Chikyu Kazoku" the other night, the young Japanese son comes home to his family in HK from Tokyo, and they just stand in the doorway - looking at each other and saying fatuous things. A few grains of rice may have spilled from my mouth as I involuntary barked, "Well hug the old bastard then, why don't you!" I then sternly admonished H11 that when he goes away and comes back, he hugs me promptly, even if I happen to be dressed in filthy rags by that stage. It didn't look very pokapoka to me. Link to post Share on other sites
akibun 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I can't imagine hugging my father. I want to, but it would seem strange. I think it is sad. Link to post Share on other sites
BagOfCrisps 24 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Me mam is a real hugging type, dad isn't though but I'll give a quicky (!) usually when we part. I think England is becoming much more huggy than it used to be. Or is it? Anyone else? Link to post Share on other sites
fjef 0 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 it may be time to open a hugging school...no degrees required... Link to post Share on other sites
gamera 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I think it depends on the custom. I remember seeing a ex-Soviet Union prime minister Bredinev (spelling not sure) hugged and kissed deep with someone who was a male in an airport (maybe in Moscow when he came back from somewhere). It was really surprising to me. Perhaps Russian way. Link to post Share on other sites
Davo 1 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Hugs are all good. I hug my family members back home and also hug friends, male or female, if I haven't seen them for quite a while. I always find it kind of sad and a bit awkward that we don't hug in my Japanese family, by that I mean the in-laws. It's just not really done in Japan which is a shame. I know my wife likes it when she gets a big hug from her kiwi in-laws or foreign friends. Link to post Share on other sites
sunrise 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I couldn't imagine not hugging my parents or family. Most of my friends and I hug, but some people prefer to do the European double (or triple) kiss to the side of the face instead. Link to post Share on other sites
frannyo 2 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Whats the deal with double and triple kissing? Link to post Share on other sites
maoriboy 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 yeah the kissing thing is a bit strange I reckon, but I have no problem with hugging family, friends and even the taxi driver (if Ive imbibed too much ). You can pretty much say Im a hug slut Link to post Share on other sites
Yuki's Passion 1 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 >Do you want a hug too? Sake, nope dont know you - and since youre not a mate of mine it would be kinda weird. Thanks though Link to post Share on other sites
sakebomb 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 So you are homophobic!! Link to post Share on other sites
Yuki's Passion 1 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Nope. To each their own I say. I like these lyrics by Ben Harper: "Burn One Down" Let us burn one from end to end and pass it over to me my friend burn it long, we'll burn it slow to light me up before I go if you don't like my fire then don't come around cause I'm gonna burn one down yes I'm gonna burn one down my choice is what I choose to do and if I'm causing no harm it shouldn't bother you your choice is who you choose to be and if your causin' no harm then you're alright with me if you don't like my fire then don't come around cause I'm gonna burn one down yes I'm gonna burn one down herb the gift from the earth and what's from the earth is of the greatest worth so before you knock it try it first you'll see it's a blessing and not a curse if you don't like my fire then don't come around cause I'm gonna burn one down yes I'm gonna burn one down Link to post Share on other sites
sakebomb 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Exactly- each to their own!! Nice song!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Oh, is this the "post an irrevelant lyric thread" then? OK, here's one I like from Cree Summer. Still Heart Couldn't find where to rub myself I didn't want to close my eyes I would scream just to shake myself Just to wake myself inside Broken into human parts I was sheltered by his chin Lives spent in wet cement underneath his skin Still on my neck the breath of the dead Even as blood and bone I can tolerate a still heart But I can't stand being alone Open me up anywhere you wish Take out anything you like Seal me up when you're through Leave a little room for surprise Made myself new one too many times To swallow his breath away I left too much space upon my back To ever make him want to stay Still on my neck the breath of the dead Even as blood and bone I can tolerate a still heart But I can't stand being alone ----- I reckon you might need to exercise caution hugging Cree-chan. Link to post Share on other sites
veronica 2 Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 I hug my family and friends as well I suppose. Here's some lovely lyrics from a lovely song written by Martin Gore. He is going through a divorce and it's about his concern for his kids. They could do with a hug. PRECIOUS Precious and fragile things Need special handling My God what have we done to you We always tried to share The tenderest of care Now look what we have put you through Things get damaged Things get broken I thought we'd manage But words left unspoken Left us so brittle There was so little left to give Angels with silver wings Shouldn't know suffering I wish I could take the pain for you If God has a master plan That only He understands I hope it's your eyes He's seeing through Things get damaged Things get broken I thought we'd manage But words left unspoken Left us so brittle There was so little left to give I pray you learn to trust Have faith in both of us And keep room in your hearts for two Things get damaged Things get broken I thought we'd manage But words left unspoken Left us so brittle There was so little left to give Link to post Share on other sites
sunrise 0 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Quote: Originally posted by frannyo: Whats the deal with double and triple kissing? For non-Europeans (or those with latin origin) I don't understand it myself. When I left Oz for Japan everyone was giving the big love-fest-type hugs. I started to notice a few years later on holidays that 50% of those people are now greeting with the kisses instead. Or even just a peck on the lips. Link to post Share on other sites
mina2 6 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 There used to be an ad on tv where a mother and daughter had a hug. I think it was advertising hugging. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Yeah, that was a bit kimochi warui wasn't it? Whenever that came on, I used to hug my boy, whatever he happened to be doing. It seemed to annoy him. Link to post Share on other sites
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