Yuki's Passion 1 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 I know many of you out there have boy/girlfriends and husbands/wives from different countries. I have, err, was, dating the same girl (Japanese) for well over 3 years and something that always caused fights with us would be her immaturity when it came to other women, specifically gaijin women. Now, I understand this but am curious what problems other people might have. Link to post Share on other sites
damian 0 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 never gone cross-border before so cant comment. But by observation of my mates relationships, Latino chicks are nuts... use with extreme caution. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 I had a long distance relationship when I first arrived here but it soon ended. The biggest problem I had was when I was as toey as a Roman sandal- i.e. I couldn`t have a `Ronnie Coote` with me cheese `n kisses! Link to post Share on other sites
LiquidX 0 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 Expectations and where they can lead you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 It's the girls' fault I reckon... Biggest problem was all the face-slapping crap. Been out in mixed company? Whap! Chatted on the phone to a female colleague? Whap-whap!! Is that dramas imitating life, or life imitating dramas? After a while had to make it very clear that it was a loser's game for little girls. Don't have none of that no more... Link to post Share on other sites
damian 0 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 Ocean - is that Japanese girls who are big on slapping their partners? Link to post Share on other sites
brit-gob 9 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 Intelligent, in-depth conversation..... Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted September 26, 2002 Share Posted September 26, 2002 I guess - I haven't dated any fellas so I don't know if they slap much And they don't usually slap back when they get whacked in the dramas (or at least they didn't when I used to watch them). I once got slapped by a drunk middle age hag of a teacher after a school party for some innocuous remark such as 'Gosh, that was a good ole hoe-down'. Old harpy left a big scratch on my cheek too. Link to post Share on other sites
LiquidX 0 Posted September 27, 2002 Share Posted September 27, 2002 Finding the "right girls" in the first place, if you know what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
rach 1 Posted September 27, 2002 Share Posted September 27, 2002 I'm all for it. Otherwise I'd be left with a bunch of Bristolians, and that's BAD! (I wonder who'll post next......?!) Link to post Share on other sites
woywoy 0 Posted September 28, 2002 Share Posted September 28, 2002 I think that it is the subtle nuances in the japanese language that make things tricky in a cross-cultural relationship. Even if one of you is pretty competent in the other's language, there are just so many subtle nuances that take years and years to learn. Getting over the language barrier is often a tricky one indeed. I have had lots of fun in the process though! Link to post Share on other sites
akibun 0 Posted September 28, 2002 Share Posted September 28, 2002 The idea is kinda exciting for me Link to post Share on other sites
woywoy 0 Posted September 30, 2002 Share Posted September 30, 2002 You after a bit of gaijin-loving are you akibun??? Link to post Share on other sites
silly-sausage 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 I have NO problem with it; best ever Link to post Share on other sites
akibun 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 I already have boyfriend woywoy Link to post Share on other sites
danz 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 say it aint so akibun.... you should be getting negative stars for that comment! danz Link to post Share on other sites
Yuki's Passion 1 Posted October 1, 2002 Author Share Posted October 1, 2002 Have any of yall gotten with somebody from work before? Ive been told not to from a few mates but was wondering if there are any good experiences... If not, theres always the konpa this weekend and a wedding on Saturday Link to post Share on other sites
woywoy 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 akibun.... really? Tell me it's not true! Have you j-girls out there ever had gaijin boyfriends? But akibun... you said you were "excited" by the idea of a gaijin boyfriend? Why is that? Link to post Share on other sites
belle 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 yuki's passion - where i come from there is a neat little saying which responds to your question, and that would be "don't fish off the company's wharf". reckon that sums it up belle Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 Lots of fishing goes on off the Japan 'Exchange' and Teaching wharf, that's for sure. Team teaching isn't the only team activity that goes on, as one of my boarding buddies will attest. But then they replenish the fish every year... Link to post Share on other sites
miteyak 0 Posted October 1, 2002 Share Posted October 1, 2002 A much more civilized version of the"don't eat where you..." Link to post Share on other sites
Davo 1 Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Don't screw the crew! It just can't be helped sometimes, but it's wise advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Raury 0 Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Unless you are planning on changing career or company, don't sleep with any of the following: a) Workmates The Boss c) Any of the bosses friends d) Any of the bosses relatives e) Anyone who fits more than one of the above categories. Having said that, when I was a teacher at a business college (read, most students between 20 and 30), I ended up seeing 1 student for a couple of months, then ended up in a relationship with one for 3 years (only the first 6 weeks were while she was at college). Link to post Share on other sites
Yuki's Passion 1 Posted October 4, 2002 Author Share Posted October 4, 2002 Got plenty of people saying dont screw the crew... thanks for the advice. Still am curious what other people, especially Japanese women, what problems youve had in relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean11 0 Posted October 4, 2002 Share Posted October 4, 2002 Screwing the crew at Pizza Hut was the only thing that kept me working there (that and drinking their godawful wine illicitly). Link to post Share on other sites
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